Stand in front of it, take a good look into it. If you are giving attitude, the image hits it right back at you. You've taken the first step towards making a mistake by giving attitude. When the image hits you back with attitude, you now have two choices. Put aside your attitude or pride, make a choice to either hit the image back harder with attitude and the thinking that you're correct and claiming that the image is wrong in giving attitude, OR admitting that you were in the wrong in the first place and stop the whole thing. The former option will spark off a chain reaction and give rise to a vicious cycle, with both sides hitting back harder with more attitude and higher intensity, while the latter not only shows that you're keen to put in the effort to change and try to improve the next time, it also prevents dire situations.
What you should not expect, is when you give attitude, yet the image in the mirror still smiles nicely, poised with a steady posture and admitting a mistake that was never its own. If it does happen, rejoice and celebrate and take the point to not do the same thing again. Never assume it as the norm and take it for granted.
Now, here is the thing. Whenever a person continuously does a specific thing ( be it willingly or unwillingly), it is gradually taken for granted that he assumes up that act as a responsibility and is supposed to do that specific thing whenever it happens etc. Here is an example. For my internship, shredding documents were never my responsibility. It was an act done by the receptionist. Yet when the receptionist had cramps on her hands, I had to help her out and then from then on, it became my responsibility to be shredding documents.
That, is human nature. Don't yield to it, go against it, the root of all evil.
Love doesn't work like that. Love doesn't give you the authority to give shit to your partner, yet still expect flowers and chocolates. You can give shit, but be prepared to accept shit, for reciprocation is the core value instilled in all our subconscious minds. Give gentleness, tolerance and generousity, and get what you want. Similarly to how you yourself disliking people going the hard way with you, stop going the hard way for others as well.
Girls. The trick to guys? Self-improvement. Here's how you do it.
Q: Want your boy to shower you with love and surprises?
-Do it as well, not complain about how much he doesn't do it and that he doesn't love you, when he is together with you in the first place and already loving you.
Q: Want your boy to spend more time with you instead of watching soccer, playing video games or going out with his friends?
-Make him want to spend more time with you, because doing so is fun. Not venting your anger, picking quarrels and limiting his freedom. Be sure to let him know that what he chooses to do is his own freedom, and not complain when he picks his choice. However, the trick is to make him feel like spending time with you, with your special moves and ideas. Plan outings, intrigue him. If you fail to make him want to spend time with you this time, so be it. Go along with what he wants to do, let him be happy and you try to stay alongside with him, and then try and think harder next time.
Q: Want your boy to not have other girls outside?
-First and foremost, stop talking and thinking about it. Secondly, love him with everything, and quit pushing him away. Thirdly, be the girl that he wants. You can play hard to get even when you're together as well, in ways, but as usual, not too hard to get till he gives up.
Q: Don't want to break up with your boy and want to last forever?
-Stop hanging the sentences with the words 'break up' or 'split' beside your mouth so constantly. Show your boy that you are happy with having him no matter what he does or what he doesn't do that other guys do for their girls, and not the impression that you want to breakup because you keep mentioning it.
Love is an emotion of strong affection and personal attachment, not a sense of insecurity, full of complaints and being envious of what others girls have yet not contented with what you yourself have. Remember why you started off, how you started off and what you started off with. If you got together and love each other, don't complain only now, but constantly keep trying to improve yourself and get what you want.
Baby, we don't give a flying fuck how many boyfriends you have had, we want to be the last. We don't care how your ex treated you, with random attitudes or scoldings or two-timed, We are who we are.
