Hello, and welcome back. I'm glad I've still got readers coming back every now and then, really consoles me. So here's the topic for today. Comparison.
For those who are constantly compared to their siblings, their friends, their partner's previous spouse and so on, this is for you. Tell whoever that's making the comparison, you're happy being you. Nobody needs to be forced to meet expectations that aren't set for them. The only expectations they should meet, is of that that they set for themselves.
Comparing, brings depression upon people. Those doing so, often do not take into account one's good points, and takes solely the bad points. Their words are like spears with tips soaked in kerosene and lit up, stabs through one and burns one's insides. An irrevocable hurt, and the depression you bring upon them, will haunt them like a shadow, ringing in their mind and heart ever so often, in everything they do. Nobody has a right to compare. Not one's parents, siblings, friends nor one's spouse has the damn right to compare.
Those who cannot stop yourselves from comparing, be it openly telling or deep inside, do it in a fair manner. Not only the bad things but the good things as well. Had the one you are comparing not done better than the other in other ways? What gives you the right to say such things, such hurtful things, when all the things that the one you are comparing of has done is to try as much as to be themselves in life, do the best to meet your expectations and obtain the assurance that they are someone indispensable in your life and deserve to be there. What gives one the right to say such things and do such a terrible and despicable thing of comparing, when the other party is not even doing so in the first place?
Reciprocate what others do to you, or do not do to you. Never insult others with verbal abuses when they do not do so. If they compare you, compare them back. If they have never done so, reciprocate that.
Provide each other with the mutual respect they deserve. Be it when questioning or doing every thing. A Q&A session involves two parts, questioning and answering. You expect respect in terms of the other party listening to you seriously and absorb the essence of your point in, then provide the respect that they deserve as well, when they ask to be given time to think over their answer to your question, or listen properly and take in their point as well. At times of arguments, the one fuming with anger has a wall built up subconsciously that blocks out all angles of reasoning and only accepts things to be done his/her way. Break that barrier, listen thoroughly and properly, only by doing so will one actually be having a conversation with another. Why ask when you accept only what you want to hear? Why question when you already have the answer that you want? Because deep within oneself, behind the protective wall built up subconsciously, one knows that the real answer might not be what one wants. So respect both parties' decision and respect them as individuals, without comparison.
Never lose the resilience towards things. Time may be given to consider one's answer to a question, verbal abuses may be hurled towards one, no matter what shit happens, always resound the resilience within you regarding how attached you are to the other. Friendships, Family ties, Relationships. One's insistence and resilience towards them will dispel all pride, sense of achievement and feel of victory that one obtains or desires from a win in an argument.
As it goes, win an argument and lose a person. Lose the argument and win the person. One may be right, one may be wrong. Does it even matter when in the first place you are arguing so as to keep the person? Bowing down and giving in does not mean you lost, it means you respect the love towards your family, your friends or lover and embrace it more than a temporary sense of achievement from winning the argument. Only when both parties have such a mindset, then will arguments turn into soft conversations, anger turn into love and questions turned into assurance.
Jessie J-Nobody's a saint, not at all, so don't tell me you can't forgive me. 'Cos nobody's perfect now.
Nobody needs somebody that does not need them. Never talk like you do not need others anymore if you do.
End of chapter for comparison. I know I strayed slightly from the topic, forgive me. I usually turn and touch on something more relating so yea, apologies for that.
I'll be celebrating with my family this year round, with my girl too. Sweet much.
Here's the menu for Christmas Eve that I'll be preparing!
Hope it inspires you guys to whip up something sweet for your loved ones too.
Entrée
-Fries with Barbeque and Cheese Dip
-Mussels in Salsa Sauce
Soup
-Cream of Mushroom with chicken bits.
Main Course
-Cheese-Baked Meatballs
-Roastbeef with Black Pepper Dip
-Asparagus wrapped in Bacon Sautéed with Butter
Side Dish
-RedSkin Potato Salad
Dessert
-Chocolate Souffle with Ice Cream.
Done with the menu, I'll skip the workout series for today. Sorry! I promise I'll give a full workout post tomorrow okay? Do hit back to check on it guys.
If I could be your superman
I'd fly you to the stars and back again
'Cause everytime you touch my hand
And feel my powers running through your veins.
But I can only write this song and tell you that I'm not that strong,
'Cause I'm no Superman, and I hope you'll like me as I am.
Back with a swifter agility, stronger body, more ferocious bite, soul-stealing howls and spine-chilling stares. I'm more than what you can take.
